Im going to meet my fiances 10 yr old son for the 1st time tonight, could you give me some advice?

I have never really been in contact with 10 year old children before, have any of you got 10 yr olds? What should I talk to him about? How can I make it easy for him? I so want him to like me.





ThanksIm going to meet my fiances 10 yr old son for the 1st time tonight, could you give me some advice?
If you treat him with respect and talk to him like he is a human being and not a child, you will go far. Don't push him; with him as in any relationship, take things slow for a time. Take the boy on outings, to the park or zoo, places like that, but do it with your fiance's permission. Talk to the boy about things he likes to do, what his interests are. But, most of all, just be yourself. Good Luck, and I wish you and your fiance well.Im going to meet my fiances 10 yr old son for the 1st time tonight, could you give me some advice?
Most important - take him serious.


Ask his opinion on things, and listen.





Not taking a child serious, unless he is obviously joking, is the best way to ruin the first impression.





What you can talk about, is his interests, because that is a subject he will be at ease with. Also, you can ask him about other things - what his opinion is on some subjects (like school, a different sport).





If you take a child seriously though, you will have won at least half the battle.
I have an 8 yr old -most kids are into video games that said all kids are different.





Some kids are really shy and won't speak to you until you speak to them and then only give one word answers.





Some kids are way to sure of themselves and you have to show that you are not a push over as nice and fun as you would like to be.





I guess you will just have to get to know him in time if he is quite outgoing just show an interest like ask what his hobbies are and see if there is anything that you both have in common to talk about etc.


If they are the quiet type just don't make him feel as though he is in the spot light with questions being fired all the time as this will make him feel very awkward just be friendly and give him his space.





You will be fine most kids are really fun to be around and all kids are hard work but thats just kids for you!
Be a big big kid!! :)





But don't avoid your fiance to do so haha.





Spend an equal amount of time with them.





Play his favourite game for a short while.





Ask him for a tour of his room, get him to show you his favourite toys.





Perhaps watch a movie with your fiance and his son until his son falls asleep.





Remember, you're becoming this kids' stepmother.





While we both know stepmother isn't the best role to play, it needn't be that way!





Build up a relationship and let this kid know that you care deeply for him and his father.





EDIT: If you have a female partner, i'm not biased, I just hadn't considered that earlier. In that case, replace the word father with mother and the relevant he with she.
Don't be too funny/pushy or entertaining...he will tell you are faking it. Just be friendly and ask him questions about films he likes and music he listens too. When my husband first met son he was 7 and they played footie together to break the ice. Perhaps you can go to Mc D's or a pizza or all go bowling to give you something to do which helps what can sometimes be an awkward situation.
well i have a 10 year old son, and i have given this some thought...as im seeing someone new and eventually if it works out he will have to meet my son. i know you are the woman but i think it will probably be the same kind of thing.





my advice is do not judge him the first time you meet him. my son can be a bit of a show off around strangers and not his normal self at all. so make some allowances for him being nervous or shy or even a bit ott!!





i wouldn't be all cooey cooey either, just be yourself, as others have said kids see right through that stuff. just relax with him, ask him how school was, maybe about his friends, if he likes sport, what he likes on tv that kind of stuff but not all at once. kids at that age have a great sense of humour, my son loves jokes and stuff...so maybe have a couple of stupid ones up your sleeve.





don't expect too much too soon, a relationship will build over time, and don't be all over his father like a rash let him be number one tonight, that will go a great way to reassure him. make the aim to be friendly, not his 2nd mum.





good luck, you sound lovely to want to make such an effort and be so aware of his needs.these relationships take time and patience, but with the right level of maturity on your part they can work out fine. as others have said don't treat him like a baby but do be mindful that at 10 they are still just children, and don't have the maturity or confidence that we as adults have.
10 year olds are usually chatty so it shouldnt be hard. Just be nice, and don't treat him like a baby. Talk about video games if he likes them, um, music, TV. It really depends on the kid. Just remember, he's a mini version of your fiance so I'm sure you'll do great!
Ask him what he's interested in? Relate and next time have a gift for him. That will get the first impression perfectly. After that then you can worry about him liking you. Then you'll need to find a bonding. you cant do that without getting to know him. if your relationship is serious with the father then ask alot of questions and listen. Good Luck.
Well i don't have kids but i've worked with them, so...





just relax, if you're nervous then he'll notice and become nervous too. Just be friendly, and talk about stuff that he's into- video games or movies maybe. Don't talk to him like a baby, just talk to him like a friend. He'll probably be very talkative and chatty anyway (in my experience of 10 year olds anyway) so don't worry :)
Just be yourself, dont try and talk to him about ';kids'; things cuz 10 year olds are smart and can see that you are trying to win him round. Just ask him about school and if he plays sport, whats his favourite football team, etc. Dont try too hard love, am sure it will be fine - good luck
take a small gift preferably a toy and some sweets, hes probably more nervous than you, win him over and your halfway there, also get a DVD to watch with him and let him stay up a little bit later than his normal bedtime to watch it with you, he will think you are just great
i have 10 y.o. he would love anyone who would talk to him. talk to him about toys and school and what books and cartoons he likes. find out which toys he likes most then u might buy him some. children also like stories and reading books (well, when someone else is reading to him)
show to him that u love not only his dad but all of the love of his dad ..so he is the 1 that is the most ... so be at ur self . be friendly .. show to him that u can do all the duties of a mom ... just like his dream ...
talk to him like a friend and do not act like he is a littkle kid.


include him in the convo and stuff dont just talk to your fiance.


you are going to marry this person and you havent met his kid yet?
Just relax and try not to put too much pressure on yourself or him. It's the first time and it will take time to build a relationship with him. Smile and remember he is not an adult.
Sooner you than me. You are in for a rough time. Change your mind and find somebody without kids.