These girls need to figure out why they want a baby so badly. Babies are a lot of work, take a lot of time, effort, money, time, money, effort, work...you get the idea. Young girls might have a lot of love to give, but to raise a healthy, happy, well-adjusted child, they have to have the other elements in place.
It's very difficult to put those other elements in place if there's already a baby in the picture. Girls with babies tend not to go to college, tend not to get good jobs, tend not to find responsible husbands, tend not to earn very much money. If the objective is to love and care for something helpless and small, there's got to be some determination to work toward that goal, not settle for instant gratification.
Maybe there's a way to sublimate these desires: work in a daycare, early childhood education center, or at a hospital or vet's office. Those are all good ways to share inconditional love without making the rest of their lives terribly complicated.
Good luck--What do you think about young teenage girls who desperatly want to have babies and what is your advice to them
The bible says wait until you are married and then have kids if you are ready. Now these days people just do what they want.
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Don't do it and wait until they are older to have children.
wait till your older.Trust your family don't be selfish
They have all the time in the world! You lose the ability to be a kid once you have kid. Don't rush and wait until you are married and can afford it.
i had my first at 14 it wasn't planned but for those who r so desparate i feel for them having a baby at any age is hard work but one in there teenage years when they have so much more things to worry about is even harder. teens can be GREAT mums but have to work harder at it. i don't think teens should try for babies because it hard on them and maybe for there child but if they did i couldnt ever slag them off
Wow ! listen a baby can change your life for ever and i know because when my mom had my litle brother, i was mostly the one who had to take care of him! and to this day i still do! my advice to you or the girls is that they need to live life to the fullest! i'm only 16 and i cant have any fun because my mom wants to act like the teen and go party and leave the child with me!!! So just letting you know its what you chose that makes you regret your decicions!
They need to wait, they have no idea what they are getting themselves into. Its not easy being a mom it takes alot of work, patience, and not to mention money. They need to babysit a newborn for a couple of days and overnight and see how hard it is getting up every 2 hours that might change their mind. They need to think about the baby and what kind of life its going to have, and not be selfish and want a baby just b/c thats what they want. I was 21 when my husband and I had our daughter and we werent prepared for it, I really dont think anyone is.
i think girls who want babies so young need a little reality check i had my first child at 17 and it was unexpected and of course i wouldnt change it for the world but when you are 20 which i now am you just want to be young you see all these other young people who can do what they want when they want and i am working but having a very hard time finding the time to go to school to make my life better it just gives a bigger struggle in life than you already have if you can help it WAIT
Well I was one of those girls (not by deception though)... When I was 16... I did get pregnant... things were very hard.... I did end up marrying my boyfriend at the time.. and through all the hardtimes we are still married.... although it was not easy.. We have struggled very much... bought a house and lost it. We have been together for almost 10 years, he is 29 and I am 25 (26 in 3 weeks). Things are going good now for us.. but from what I hear we are a very rare exception.
Now, the advice I would give young girls is please wait! You will eventually have to move out into your own place.. and thats when it gets hard. Your mom and dad wont be there forever... maybe while your still a teenager.. but eventually it will be all on you.... with or without the father. Babies require care 24 hours a day 7 days a week 365 days a year.. you do not have time for you... it has to be all about your baby. You will likely not have friends because they wont want to deal with you looking for a sitter, or having to be home at a certain time to be with your child.
Life was hard, very hard, and things are just now starting to get really good for us (knock on wood!) There are times when I remember just crying at night because I never thought we would get ahead. There are many times when I thought our marriage was not working because we started to grow into different people as adults. Luckily throught ALOT of hard work (and too many tears to count) things are looking up for us....
Please wait until you are financially and emotionally ready! Kids take such an emotional toll on people! Our other 3 kids were planned...
This is definitely NOT normal! That sort of thing looks like they are looking for someone to love them unconditionally because they don't get it from home from their parents, especially from the male figure in their lives. So, they look for it elsewhere.
Because of their immaturity, they don't realize just how difficult it is to raise a child. The first year, especially with a newborn, can be extremely difficult and who will they have to rely on? Some, I'm sure, think they will have their boyfriend's help, but that usually isn't the case. They usually run at the first sign of pregnancy. Growing up without a father isn't easy or good for the development of the child.
I'm sure these girls think they have it all figured out, but babies aren't as cute as they thought they would be when they cry all night for no good reason and they are walking them up and down the room for the fifth night in a row when they have school the next day and a test and they have to be at work then......I feel sorry for these girls who don't get the love they need at home and I feel sorry for these babies who are born to fulfill the need they cannot possibly fill.
They really should wait,children are a huge,huge,responsibility..when your that young you have so much left to experience and you miss out on alot when you have a baby that comes first.I think these girls think if they get pregnant,that their boyfriend have no choice but to stay w/ them,so they try to get pregnant in order to keep their man,which in most cases will not happen.Tell them to spend a day w/ a young mother and see how difficult it is!
I would recommend those girls get jobs babysitting or something of the like b/c they're not emotionally-or fiscally, for that matter-mature enough to provide for a baby! Another great idea would be to volunteer through Big Brothers/Big Sisters! It is sick how far some of these girls will go, not realizing JUST how drastically life-changing having a baby will be! They think babies are born w/ unconditional love. They mistake unconditional love for unconditional NEED. The baby knows its mother and eventually connects that mother is the one who provides them w/ what they need. They also don't have the foresight to think that someday that baby will be a 3 y/o screaming ';I HATE YOU MOMMY!'; in the middle of the grocery store!
The tragedy is I don't think most of these girls are willing to hear the advice given to them anyway. The problem needs to be looked at MUCH earlier than adolescence! I think a HUGE part of the problem is the disintegration of the family. There are a lot of single mothers out there who need to work 2-3 jobs to keep her and her kids afloat, and that leaves no time for the mother to sit down w/ her daughter and have ANY sort of meaningful conversation! Not only that, it leaves the daughter w/ an emotional void--one that she thinks can only be filled by a boyfriend or a baby.
DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!! THE END RESULT IS NEVER WHAT YOU THOUGHT IT WOULD BE, AND IT'S A LOT MORE WORK THEN YOU THINK!!!!
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